Dear Dina,

I’ve been going out with this boy for 2½ months, and we’re still in "the holding hands and a little kiss on the cheek" stage. I want to get further with him, but I don’t think he’s ready to go any faster then we are right now.

I really like him, but if he is not willing to move any faster, and I am. I don’t know what to do. I’m helpless. What should I do?

Sincerely,

Helpless

Dear Helpless,

Does your boyfriend know that you want to move faster? If you haven’t talked to him about it he probably doesn’t know that where you two are right now isn’t where you’d like to be.

You say that you don’t know what to do if he isn’t willing to move faster.

A relationship is more than just the physical aspects; it’s about having someone to go places with, do things with, and just being happy to have their company. Just try to see what his feelings are about the subject.

From there you’ll have to decide if going further means more to you than being his girlfriend and not worrying about how far you are going.

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Try not to worry so much if things aren’t happening as fast as you would like them to. If things are going to happen, they will.

Best of luck!

Sincerely,

Dina

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Dear Dina,

After not having a boyfriend for a long time, suddenly two boys like me at the same time. I just don’t know which one to choose. Each one has things that I like about him that the other does not have. I feel that by talking and flirting with both, I am not being fair to them.

I have never been in a situation like this and I’m not sure what I should do.

How do I decide which one I should date?

Sincerely,

Indecisive

Dear Indecisive,

It sounds like you need to do some serious thinking.

From what you said, it definitely sounds like a tough decision because each boy has different qualities that you find attractive. What you need to do is think about what you like the most in each one. One might be physically more attractive, but make sure you consider their personalities too.

Try to make a decision so that you don’t lead both of them on. It’s not fair to them if you tell the one you really like him and then you say the same thing to the other guy. Just think about it for a little while and figure out which one would make you the happiest.

Sincerely,

Dina

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Dear Dina,

I have been home-schooled from kindergarten to sixth grade. I really want to go to the junior high school in my town, but I am afraid my parents would say no if I asked them. I want to make friends and be involved in extracurricular activities.

I have enjoyed being home-schooled so far but I would like to see what school is like.

What should I do?

Sincerely,

Afraid to Ask

Dear Afraid to Ask,

If you truly wish to attend school, you should mention it to your parents. Start off by asking them why they chose to home-school you over sending you to the school in your town. After they tell you how they feel, let them know how you feel about it.

Propose having you attend junior high because you want to meet people and get involved in activities. Make sure you give them good, solid reasons as to why you would like to go to school.

As long as you give them good reasons, they will at least consider it.

Sincerely,

Dina

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Dina Perazone, a 2006 graduate of Roxbury Central School, is a freshman at the State University College at Geneseo. You can send your questions to Dina by mail c/o The Daily Star P.O. Box 250, Oneonta, NY 13820 or by sending e-mail to punkrockrrr13@hotmail.com.